Friday, July 06, 2007

Terrible Ones -or- The Valley -or- Dirty Mom Secrets II

Dedicated to my daughter, whom I will always love with all my heart and soul, and will never stop loving, no matter what.

I'm writing this assuming I'm not a horrible person and that this happens to every mother on earth. Ok, here goes. I'm sort of tired of Anne right now. To be honest, it's been kind of hard spending time with her lately. I wish John would take her away for an entire day so I could just breathe. Actually, if I'm honest, I wish he would take her for a week. I just need a break and she's not so pleasant right now.

Anne and I seem to go through mountains and valleys. The mountains seem to last a long time and are pretty amazing. Those are the days and weeks, sometimes even months, where everything she does is the greatest thing in the world. Where I love her so much I start to cry thinking about her. Where I can't imagine life without her, want to spend every minute with her, and find it impossible to entertain the idea that someday, for even a moment, I might not be as pleased with her as I am now. Then there are the valleys, where we've been the past few weeks. Where she whines all the time, cries, clings, throws things, yells in fury when the tiniest thing does not go her way. Where nothing I try and do for her is right or fun and ends in tears on both parts. And where I wish her away.

I think Monday was the culmination. She had been clingy, whiny, cry-ey and generally unpleasant for a few weeks now. I tried to do nice things for her on Monday, I took her to the pool but she cried the entire time. I tried to give her things she would love to eat but she took a bite and spit it out. Or the second I would put her on the ground she'd start to whine and cry and cling, yet when I pick her up she cries and pushes away. What's a mom to do?? Well, guiltily, I put her in her crib for an hour while she screamed, let John take her when he got home and left to go for an hour long drive where I listened to Linkin Park (my angry music).

We seem to be coming out of the valley, which I'm grateful for. She's starting to seem a bit more cute, a bit more fun, and a bit more easygoing. She's been much easier to deal with the past 2 days than the past 2 weeks.

So my question Mamas, does this happen to you? Do you ever get sick of your child? Do you ever go through the valleys I just described? Tag, you're it. Write about what your valleys are like, on your blog or use my comment section. Let's band together and make this seem a bit more normal and acceptable.

2 comments:

Nicole said...

Thank you for sharing this. I really appreciate your honesty.

Heather said...

Okay, I will have to write about this. I can relate. It is such a roller coaster ride. I for one do not like roller coasters. I cry on the log flume.

It is so hard to continually surrender to God everything that I am and keep giving grace to my little ones. Somedays I do okay, and sometimes I totally fail.

It is okay to have really good and really bad days. That's how life long relationships are.I think marriage is like that sometimes too. Give yourself grace. You are a great mama! No mama can ever be perfect.